Okay so almost 2 years later you get a response, but uh YEAH! It's ridiculous. When I start dating a guy I'll give him the world pretty much from the beginning. So they always seem to take that for granted and expect it after just a short while. Then when I start noticing (ENFJ's are very intuitive even if we can't quite explain it into words) he is taking it for advantage I can become a bitch. I'll just get an attitude problem and start feeling resentful of him. That's how it was with my ex-husband. I obviously would have gone to the end of the earth and back 100 times if he asked me. I took care of everything from all the household chores to the money, to cooking. I wanted to do it. It made me feel good, but he had to show me his appreciation every once in a while. Even just a thank you would have been all I needed really. He stopped showing that appreciating at about 6 months into the marriage. All I asked of him was to take out the trash and take care of the cars. I couldn't tell you how many times I always did what he asked of me the first time, but had to "nag" him as he put it about taking out the trash that had been overflowing for a week. He thought I would never leave and then he started becoming abusive. Yeah I tried to make it work. We ENFJ's will stay with you until we reach a breaking point which takes quite some time. Once I became aware my life could be in danger I left.

How about when you go out with friends? I always want to pay for my friends when they don't have money to go out. I feel bad even if I can barely afford myself. I have a friend that tends to take advantage of that, but I think she's an awesome person and we always have a great time so it's not enough for me to stop hanging out with her.

I'm curious as to what your story is Kitty. :)