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I am very intrigued with MBTI types and relationship compatibility. I took the test on similarminds and found that I am an ENFJ, which I pretty much suspected.
Extroverted (E) 58.82%
Intuitive (N) 68.75%
Feeling (F) 66.67%
Judging (J) 80%
and my boyfriend took the test and found that he was an ISTJ (dont' have his stats). Although these types are opposites, we get along well and find a balance, in part because we're both strong Js. And because he's very cool-headed and rational, he's not offended by some of my more opionated statements.
I've found in the past that as an N I don't do well with the S types. Big clash in communication styles and values there. And I've noticed that men who are very introverted get intimidated when I act very extraverted. I've had to learn to tone things down a bit.
How about the rest of you? What types do you get along best with?
Extroverted (E) 58.82%
Intuitive (N) 68.75%
Feeling (F) 66.67%
Judging (J) 80%
and my boyfriend took the test and found that he was an ISTJ (dont' have his stats). Although these types are opposites, we get along well and find a balance, in part because we're both strong Js. And because he's very cool-headed and rational, he's not offended by some of my more opionated statements.
I've found in the past that as an N I don't do well with the S types. Big clash in communication styles and values there. And I've noticed that men who are very introverted get intimidated when I act very extraverted. I've had to learn to tone things down a bit.
How about the rest of you? What types do you get along best with?
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Wed, August 31, 2005 - 9:32 AMHI Juno,
I read some where that a enfj can match well with infp, but I haven't any experience personally.
I know I do better with a "n f" match. I tend to be intially attracted to men that are "I', but then get frustrated later in the relationship, with that aspect.
Since I am exploring new relationships I am curious to see how I do with other MBTI types.
would love to hear others experiences as well.
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Sun, November 18, 2007 - 4:37 AMI'm engaged to an ENTJ,and I find that we can connect incredibly well. He's way more rational though, as his thinking is more pronounced than his feeling. But i find that i can learn from that and develop that side of myself, and vise versa. There is a basic understanding of eachother, and a core that is very much the same, which creates the reality of being "in tune" with eachother. Furthermore, there are a lot of things in which we complete eachother. There are things that I'm not good at, but he's good at it, and again, that goes the other way around too. It's incredible, really. We have become one superperson. I love it.
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Sun, November 25, 2007 - 2:43 PMOpposites attract, then start the pygmalion project, from experience.
My job lets me see couples in the heydey of decision-making, and it sometimes, it ain't pretty. The stronger personality always wins.
I for one, will go for my own kind - its just harder to make that initial connection. I'm willing to wait though ... the sadder but wiser girl for me! -
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Sat, September 20, 2008 - 2:51 PMopposites do try to change eachother, which isnt really love, its control.
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Wed, December 24, 2008 - 12:47 AMweirdly enough, I think I only know a few ENFJ's....... and 2 of them are married to each other.
Apparently this match is breathtakingly good for an extended period of time (10 years in their case, full of romantic nights staying up late just talking and only very short disagreements, cause neither could stand to be mad for long) - BUT, after 10 years somehow the honeymoon seems to be over, and man is it OVER!! It's going to take a miracle to keep these two together (which seems to be the goal, for the sake of their kids).
From what I can tell, ENFJ's are perfect for each other as long as both maintain their high level of confidence. But if one partner's confidence level slips over the years and they find themselves on unequal footing, it seems to be very hard for the other to maintain interest.... which then spurs the less-confident ENFJ into more panic & neediness, which then drives the other even farther away, etc, etc..
As for me, I seem to have fallen in love with either an ENFJ or INFJ last year. It's waaaaay over now, but my memories still pretty much torment me. It was a consuming, meteoric trip across the night sky for 5 months, and ended abruptly for complicated reasons. So, yeah, ENFP + ENFJ seems to equal disaster. Extreme mutual attraction disaster.
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Re: ENFJs and relationships
Sat, March 14, 2009 - 2:23 AMwhat's odd is... every ENFJ I know is with an INTJ. I know 3 different couples with t5he ENFJ/INTJ combination.
my boss is an INTJ who always picks ENFJ's to work with.
my husband is an INFP.
isn't this odd?
I think I could only be understood fully by an NF, and I've always been attracted to IP's. it's worked out well for me.
