boyfriend just took the test and it wasn't a surprise - ENFP :(

topic posted Thu, January 25, 2007 - 4:02 PM by  Kitty
Share/Save/Bookmark
Advertisement
We've been together for almost a year and it's been non-stop fighting. I took the test a few weeks ago and had suspisions about our compatibility. No wonder.
Anyone else dated a Quasi-Identical before?

I like stories.
posted by:
Kitty
Advertisement
Advertisement
  • anyone have much experience with ENFPs?
    • I am an ENFP.
      Why is there so much conflict? I like people that can make judgements and plan shit.
      I would love to have a partnern that can be organized and thoughtfull and have their lives together.

      Also dont ENFJ's make great therapists?

      I have never met an ENFJ man, so Im not sure if we would Kill eachother, but I guess the potential is there.
      Why does everyone talk about ENFP-ENFJ being such a horrendious match?
      • ENFP - ENFJ is a high energy combo where both ENFJ & ENFP like to talk more than listen. However, ENFJ's are playful and socially adept and going out and having fun isn't a problem. Hence, I see the ENFJ and ENFP as activity partners more than intimates.

        On the other hand, I think ENFJ - INFP could pair well, given the INFP is willing to be outgoing now & then.

        Also, INFJ - ENFP pairs very nicely so long as each person appreciates how the other person functions and can be understanding (true of any relationship). Of course in this I am biased (an INFJ) since I have had many ENFP best friends both men & women, some with romantic interest and many platonic.
        • Hey--- Im ENFP and I'm not a flake, I resent that.


          Frusterated ENFJ's need to encourage their ENFP mates to get on some prozac, or adderall to help them focus, and if that doesnt work lighten up and save the counseling for someone who will actually listen.
          • he wants me to listen to every thought and feeling he has without judging. i wish he'd go to therapy because he has a lot of the same issues that i do. he insists on solving his own problems.
            when i talk about my weaknesses and problems he'll interrupt me with a story on how he handles a similar situation extremely well. he never talks negative about himself either.
            he wont make negative conclusions about people and often gets really offended on the way i describe people. he thinks i dont like them when i'm really getting to the bottom line instead of just perceiving as he does.
            and a bunch of other stuff. i'll go more into it later.

Recent topics in "ENFJ Personalities"

Topic Author Replies Last Post
newly discovered... greenisis 9 November 23, 2009
feeling taken advatage of/taken for granted Kitty 1 November 23, 2009
Love Types: ENFJ Mimi Maya 0 August 15, 2009
ENFJs and relationships Juno 6 March 14, 2009